“We haven’t heard a single peep from her — no card or message to say she’s sorry,” the mom shared on Mumsnet
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- A Mumsnet user is offended by the seemingly lack of sympathy from her son’s girlfriend after the sudden death of his grandpa
- “We ask about her every time we chat with our son on the phone and pass on messages like congratulations for events in her life that he tells us about,” the mom explained
- Many Mumsnet users disagreed with the mom’s sentiments
A mom admitted she’s resentful of her son’s girlfriend after his grandfather died and the family hasn’t “heard a single peep” from her.
Still mourning her dad’s death, the mother turned to the community forum Mumsnet to vent about her son’s girlfriend not offering any condolences.
“My son [in his late 20s] has been living with his girlfriend ‘Grace’ for more than a year now on the other side of the country,” the mom began her post. “We’ve only had the chance to meet Grace once when he brought her to stay to attend a family celebration held by his grandparents.”
“She was welcomed, met the whole family — including grandparents — and was lovely if perhaps a little shy and awkward,” she continued. “We ask about her every time we chat with our son on the phone and pass on messages like congratulations for events in her life that he tells us about.”
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Two months ago, the mom’s father unexpectedly died.
“My son has been involved closely with the grief and the funeral planning,” she wrote, before explaining Grace’s absence. “We’ve been showered with kindness and condolences from friends and family, but we haven’t heard a single peep from her — no card, or message to say she’s sorry.”
“Of course, it’s perfectly possible that Grace has said to my son, ‘Please tell your family how sorry I am,’ and he has failed to pass on the message (he can also be fairly socially awkward),” she clarified of the situation. “But I’m slightly surprised and a little hurt that between the two of them they haven’t managed to pass on any condolence message at all.”
Now, the mother is wondering if she should ask her son why his girlfriend has remained silent about his grandfather’s sudden death.
“I’m worried if I do ask, my son will either take it as a criticism of him for failing to pass on the message (it would be!) or of Grace for not sending a message (and I absolutely do not want to sour a relationship with her),” the mom said. “But if I don’t ask him I will hold on to this minor resentment against Grace perhaps unfairly and/or my son will learn nothing about needing a bit of awareness where feelings and emotions are involved.”
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Many Mumsnet users disagreed with the mom’s negative sentiments.
“It’s weird you’ve picked this out. I’m sure she is supporting your son, and while it would have been nice to pass a message to you too it wouldn’t be expected,” one reader replied. “She’s not your friend, she’s your son’s GF.”
Another person agreed, commenting, “This is an overreaction and sounds like you dislike her and want to feel validated in that choice.”
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